I was struck by the line, “Over the course of a lifetime, we will remember all of the things we forgot ….”
It made me think of the notion that most people probably won’t remember. All the things, anyway. Maybe some of the things.
Your average person is “asleep” and won’t wake up until they’re on their death bed, or something traumatic happens – whichever comes first.
Most of us are asleep in our relationships, behind our desks, in the drive-thru line, sitting in the glow of the T.V., wrapped up in the convenience of our pre-planned lives. That plan having been sculpted by expectations, social conditioning, and whatever the fuck is deemed “trendy” by mainstream American standards.
You can be woken up by a near death experience, the death of a loved one, the traumatic ending of a relationship….
Or something more gentle and fluid. It doesn’t have to take all that drama.
You can fuck all that noise and just do what feels right to you. Literally for no other reason than the fact that it feels good.
You don’t have to explain it to anyone.
It doesn’t have to make sense.
It doesn’t have to offer financial gain.
It doesn’t have to appear responsible.
It doesn’t have to satisfy anyone but you.
So the fucking rules are:

Take care of your body
Be conscious of what you put on it
and thoughtful of what you put in it
Keep it loose and flexible
Move it every day

Take care of your mind
Be careful with things and people that scatter your brain
and aware of what makes your thoughts race
Set and stick to your boundaries
Notice what makes you feel calm and do ten times more of it
Give yourself things to look forward to
Do things that switch it off

Take care of your heart
Ditch people that try to hoard it
Be kind to yourself after someone hurts it
Know that it can heal a hundred times over
and that it’s way bigger and stronger than you think

Take care of your environment
Open the windows
Make your bed
Keep a bowl with fresh fruit and a vase with flowers
Fill it with natural scents and objects
Scrub your fucking toilet

Take care of your emotions
Ask for what you need – if you don’t know: figure it out
Say how you feel – if you don’t know: figure it out
Journal, Write, Speak Up
Get it out
Trust your instincts

Take care of your sexuality
Masturbate, regularly
Have sex with nice people
Orgasm however you need to
Get tested
Hang out naked
Really look at yourself, often

Because if you don’t feel good – what is the point of any of it?

Mary  #rulestoenjoyourlife !

Joell – Just printing out the whole damn thing! “Notice what makes you feel calm and do ten times more of it” My meditation teacher used to tell me, “Jello, meditate for an hour every day. Unless you don’t have time. Then meditate for two hours.” :0)

Katie DiBenedetto It’s so true!

Stacy – “You don’t have to explain it to anyone. It doesn’t have to make sense. It doesn’t have to offer financial gain. It doesn’t have to appear responsible. It doesn’t have to satisfy anyone but you.” I love the pre-rules. They set the tone beautifully. A…See More

Katie DiBenedetto I should make an actual sign that says that. Ha!

Jena Schwartz Seriously fantastic. Like Joell, I want to print this out and make sure I choose at least one thing from each “take care” section every day. So clear, useful, funny, and full of heart.

Katie DiBenedetto That’s me! Useful and full of…..something.

Murielle – I love the first three paragraphs, powerful truths and insights 🙂
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Daniel Boylan

Daniel – this part makes me smile: “Take care of your environment
Open the windows
Make your bed
Keep a bowl with fresh fruit and a vase with flowers
Fill it with natural scents and objects
Scrub your fucking toilet”…..i’ve been on zen retreats with top masters and this is what they tell you……you must take care of everything in your life…..people want to sit down and find bliss……not work at it or make it into a program in their life with effort……nice to hear from you again, Katie!

 

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